just try not to expect too much from me and you might not be let down....

Last night I stayed up very late with some friends and we talked about those we care about. It made me realize the reality of the idea....its not enough to be a good man....you must a be a good man who acts.

Living a life caught up in what people do for you is a horrible exsistence. In my line of work, I see people who only greet you because of what you can do for them or what they think you can do for them. I also see it in my personal life....girls who only stay with boys because of what they can do for them, or guys who only stay with girls because of what they do for them....forgone are the real reasons to be with someone or to befriend someone.

How can one carry on for years only concerned with what one person can provide for you?
Is there not much more to our living than being a bottom feeder for what others cast down to us?
Is not love so much more than what someone can buy for you?

I am not even necessarily talking about girlfriend/boyfriend...but friendship in general.
There is this huge gap where people are so selfish and they wonder why this friendship or this relationship just didnt work out....what they don't realize is that they expected those people to give things to them. However, when those people were so unknowingly expected to provide these arbitrary tokens....they were tossed aside because they didn't "come through"

I hate soap box speeches, but it weighs heavy on me to see people tossing aside amazing relationships because of what they "didnt get".
I guess my point is, make sure you aren't being abused in your relationships sure, but look to better those you love....expect almost nothing in return.

Chasing this idea of one sided expectations is completely out of line.
Love, its work, weather its your best friend whos having a rough day or its your girlfriend of 3 years.
Its tough out there, people are losing jobs and losing faith.....hold each other up.
Stop looking around for what people can do for you....help someone else.



Life isn't what we have, its what we give.